Recently I was talking to someone I respect a great deal, and she said something I’ve often thought as well: many people are more uncomfortable with gender nonconformity than with homosexuality. Of course, the two often go hand in hand. But let’s assume, for a moment, that we can disaggregate them.
In my work circles, which mostly comprise upper-middle-class NPR listeners, few people care if your partner is male or female. Same-sex partnership is still noteworthy, interesting, and a titillating gossip source to some people, but for the most part, it’s not a big issue. Homos abound at high levels in my profession, and most are pretty open. But I have trouble coming up with examples of high-powered women in my profession who wear mostly men’s clothing. If you’re a woman giving a conference talk, it’s not that big a deal to mention your same-sex partner. It is a big deal to wear a necktie. No one else does it, and you’re likely to be seen as “making a statement.”
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